April192012
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March182012

Large families are the norm in Utah

With the predominant religions being LDS and Catholic (in Ogden), you encounter an awful lot of large families. Only children are nearly unheard of. If you can’t have your own there are adoption agencies catering to the members of the LDS church and adoption agencies (tiny ones) for members of the Catholic Church. 
Single parents are shunned and many unwed mothers are pressured by the church to place their baby with a kind LDS family. There are billboards stating “your baby deserves a mother and a father.”  
Many people will have several babies of one sex and will continue trying until they get a baby of the opposite sex. If they are unable to accomplish that goal they will seek a baby from the adoption agency.

(As a young pregnant woman I felt a lot of pressure from my community to place my baby with a nice LDS family. I even had visits from elders in my hospital room! 
I  opted not to place my baby and I was shunned for a few years.)

As a result families are quite large in comparison to families in other states. This is more than a religious practice. This is our culture. 

Five children is the average for a married couple in Utah. 

March12012

Anonymous asked: Is it considered taboo to marry a non Mormon?

Yeah it is. Because if a woman marries a non mormon man she may not make it into the best parts of heaven. And the temple marriage is out of the question.

It’s not really taboo though. There would just be some pressure to convert the spouse.

2PM

Anonymous asked: What's outer temple clothing?

All white. They wear slippers inside because the shoes they wear have to be clean and pure.
Just clean, white, and modest.

I will have to get an LDS friend to weigh in on this one. I’m not sure what the other rules are.

2PM
February282012
5PM
“In Utah, it means eating, bland, fatty foods with lots of cheese, gravy, ice cream, raisin-tapioca pudding, butter cookies and red punch, like those meals they serve at the Lion House.”

Billy from Ex-mormons

Explaining one aspect of Mormon Culture.

And he is right.

2PM

Dorms for married couples

The colleges here have dorms for married couples to live in while they attend school. Most people in Utah are encouraged to get married before finishing school. (That also opens more financial grants for them.)

I will often encounter them taking classes together, sharing books, and walking around holding hands. Often times the women will leave school for a while when they have their first babies. The men usually finish and then the women come back at that point.

Continuing your education is encouraged in Utah and being married or having children is not seen as a barrier to obtaining your degree.

2PM

Word of Wisdom

Just thought I’d throw in whoever said the word of wisdom forbids caffeine is full of crap. As you are well aware I was raised Mormon but shunned by them because of my looks and found great solace in using their own doctrine to school them.

The Word of Wisdom never forbids caffeine, ever. It forbids hot drinks. It also never specifically forbids alcohol it forbids strong drinks. So one could argue beer and wine are excluded from this. In fact many French Mormons still enjoy a glass of wine with dinner.

Any Mormon who doesn’t believe me feel free to review D & C 89:5-7 about alcohol and 9 about tea and coffee.

Thank you babe!

I am so grateful to have your insight here.

(This is a submission from one of my best friends. Sometimes I forget that she was temple married.)

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